Male players in dating
Possibly derived from the phrases "play him for a fool", or "play him like a violin".
The term was popularized by hip-hop culture, but was commonly recognized among urban American blacks by the 1970s.
Holding someone close in bed also makes you feel very secure with one another and the relationship. Men are taught that confidence solves just about anything.
You can be making a total mistake, but as long as you're confident, it will turn out okay. It's peaceful to lie in someone's arms in the dark with great music or even the low buzz of the TV (although that tends to distract me) in the background.
As someone who does research on young men’s sexual development and has written a book about it, I often get asked if all guys “just want sex.” The answer is no, of course. Nearly all guys have and want relationships, even the guys who screw around.
Regardless of their sexual history or interest in having random sex, when a guy has a sweetie, that relationship is important to him, even if he’s not very good at respecting it or making it work.